1. Set goals and objectives: decide what you want, what type of qualities you admire, what type of goals you wish to achieve.
2. Assess strengths and weaknesses: examine yourself, what you are good at, what you need to improve on. For example if you have lots of ideas and plan, but you’re also a little shy you know that’s what you should work on
3. Take out toxicity: things, or people, that constantly hurt you or make you feel less than should be taken out of the equation for growth. This is easier said than done, but at least minimize the things contaminating your path to progress.
4. Create an action plan: a way to slowly change your behaviours and habits, this is hard because you should be realistic too. Again if you’re shy this could mean putting yourself out there more.
5. Implement plan: this is when you put into play what you were planning. This step is hard to because it requires work, and this is the part where you need to be sure of your goals that you made earlier. You’re putting in all this effort so be sure it’s for a good reason.
6. Analyze the effectiveness of the plan: after a while of consistently implementing the plan analyze the impact of it. Do you feel happier? More fulfilled? Do you think it’s going well? If it’s not it’s probably because you’re expecting too much, and need to pace yourself. If that’s the case break your plan down into phases so it’s manageable and doesn’t overwhelm you.
7. Forgive yourself (and others): along the line you may have made mistakes, or others may have done small things to upset you. While it’s important to recognize when you’ve been wronged it’s also important to address it in a healthy way. Talk out issues and work for forgiveness. This allows you to be rid of negativity and focus on yourself and your path.
8. Develop discipline and routine: this is something that happens after constantly repeating things that work for you. Repeating good behaviour and habits so much so that they become a part of you. This isn’t based off the “treat yourself” self-care rhetoric, rather it’s hard work you’ve put into changing your ways of thinking and dealing with failures. Instead of regression after failure, your work ethic and mindset should be to find another solution, and to not beat yourself up.
9. Maintain or cultivate relationships: having positive warm people in your life will make any hardship easier and having them support you will be motivation.
10. Always be learning: learn from people around you, learn from the trees, learn from the relationships that didn’t work out. This will help you understand others and to improve your own life. Don’t become static. If anything becoming the best version of yourself is impossible, it’s unattainable because you are constantly changing and life is not static either. You need to be the most adaptable and kind version of yourself.